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When someone you love kisses you in the dark


betrayal’s hurt



There is a scripture that we read in the Bible that talks about Jesus understanding and personally knowing everything that we are tempted with.  He knows every pain and every temptation that you and I can possibly have for He took on flesh and experienced pain personally.  Included in this is the very severe pain of having those you have loved and trusted betray you.   Hebrews 4:14-16 (KJV)14 Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.   15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.   16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.  


Betrayal is an ugly word, and it takes many different forms.  But the root of all of its forms is having someone or something that you have counted on and have put an emotional and intellectual investment in, turning on you and disregarding both what is right and you and your feelings personally. 

Betrayal knows that it is hurting you, and knows that it has been trusted not to do so. It does not matter how much you have trusted it, a Betrayal is a selfish thing.

I am not speaking of the kind of little betrayals when people mess up on you and really did not plan it.  I am talking about someone giving into a human weakness and maybe hurting your feelings when they did not really plan to do it.

I hope that we have enough of the love of God and grace in our lives that we are not so easily offended when someone does that to us, because we are prone to do it to others ourselves sometimes (though if we are walking in the Spirit we certainly to not make a pattern or habit of it).  But the love of God in our lives will keep us from being offended at those things and let us let them just pass:   1 Corinthians 13:5-7 (KJV) “ 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;   6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;   7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.  “    


But I am speaking of the kind of betrayal when the person that we have trusted and loved and invested our energies and love and lives into turns on us and deliberately betrays us knowingly.

Judas knew what he was doing and it did not just come on him in a moment of human weakness.  This man had walked in the glory of God and in the presence of Jesus and decided to betray him.

Matthew 26:14-16 (KJV)14 Then one of the twelve, called Judas Iscariot, went unto the chief priests,   15 And said unto them, What will ye give me, and I will deliver him unto you? And they covenanted with him for thirty pieces of silver.   16 And from that time he sought opportunity to betray him.  


See, Jesus knew ahead of time that Judas was going to betray HimMatthew 26:21-25 (KJV) “ 21 And as they did eat, he said, Verily I say unto you, that one of you shall betray me.   22 And they were exceeding sorrowful, and began every one of them to say unto him, Lord, is it I?   23 And he answered and said, He that dippeth his hand with me in the dish, the same shall betray me.   24  The Son of man goeth as it is written of him: but woe unto that man by whom the Son of man is betrayed! it had been good for that man if he had not been born.   25 Then Judas, which betrayed him, answered and said, Master, is it I? He said unto him, Thou hast said.  “

 What you see happening in this Passover Seder or Meal is that Jesus is given Judas the place of honor as dipping into the dish, and he put him in the place of honor.  Jesus knew by the Holy Spirit that this trusted disciple who according to Acts 1, had an active part of the ministry of the Kingdom had already determined in his heart to betray Him.

Jesus had put as much of an investment of love and care and ministry into Judas as he had any of the others.  Granted that James, and John, and Peter were the inner group who had proven themselves more faithful and able to handle deeper things, but Jesus had given teaching and love and care to all of the 12

Acts 1:16-18 (KJV) “ 16 Men and brethren, this scripture must needs have been fulfilled, which the Holy Ghost by the mouth of David spake before concerning Judas, which was guide to them that took Jesus.   17 For he was numbered with us, and had obtained part of this ministry.   18 Now this man purchased a field with the reward of iniquity; and falling headlong, he burst asunder in the midst, and all his bowels gushed out. “


Some try to act like Judas was never a part of the Kingdom to begin with, but the gospels just do not bear that out and neither does this verse in Acts.  He had obtained a part of this same ministry of Jesus and the Apostles.  He had a part of it… he was not a tare that was never a part, but he has the sad distinction of being a part and becoming an apostate.

You see early on that he has the same power of God moving through him to preach and to cast out demons and heal the sick as the others.  He is one of them.  But toward the end of Jesus’ earthly ministry, you see some indications that greed is taking him as he makes criticisms over money and becomes the Apostles’ Treasurer.  But he was one of them, and not just a pretender.  This made the betrayal all that more painful and you can hear it in Peter’s speech to the others here in Acts.

Don’t you think when Jesus would go to Gethsemane to pray for his coming ordeal that the fact that Judas was going to lead the Temple Guard to him and betray him would weigh on his mind to at least some degree as well?  Don’t you think that the ordeal that Jesus was going to take on the sins of the entire human race throughout time and have to bear the painful death of that and all that the crucifixion would bring was hard enough without knowing that the sin of betrayal was about to be committed against Him on a real personal level as well? 

I believe that Judas really hurt Jesus.  But the way that Jesus dealt with it is a good guide to us who are “Christians” and would want to be Christlike.

Remember that Jesus had escaped his enemies’ traps time and time again even by the use of supernatural power by walking in the midst of them while they were trying to stone him and they could not find him.  It was not his time yet.

But now, he knew that his time was coming which is why he was being so bold in preparing his disciples.  Part of that preparation was the revelation that one of them was going to betray him.

He is called the son of perdition.  God knew that he would betray Jesus from the foundation of the world.  God is in the future right now and already knows what we will do, and yet gives us the will to decide to choose.  Love is a choice, and God wants us to love Him for real.  Judas had a choice, and even when Jesus was telling them about betrayal and warning them, Judas still had a choice.

Was it greed?  Was it as some believe that Judas wanted to force Jesus into showing His power and overtaking the Romans and the corrupt Sanhedrin Court and Priesthood?  Did he believe that forcing Jesus into this kind of dilemma would force him to show himself as the Real Messiah to the people and at the same time make some money on the side?  Probably, but God only knows now for sure.

Satan literally took control of Judas, but that can only occur when someone has given themselves over the Devil through some iniquity first.  Was it a lust for power or greed or something else?  All we know is that Jesus knew about it and showed Judas double honor before and during the act. 

1.    Jesus gave him the place of honor at the Passover Seder.

2.    Jesus gave him the honor of the meal with the dipping of the bread.

3.    Judas had already been to the priests and had already betrayed him in his heart.

4.    Jesus would tell him to go do what he was going to do quickly.

5.    Judas would after the night of agonizing prayer in the garden, betray Jesus with a kiss.

6.    Jesus would call him, friend. 

Some as Sanballat to Nehemiah are obviously going to betray you.  He invited Nehemiah down to the Valley of Ono for a conference, but was going to lay a trap for him there.  Be careful when your enemies suddenly invite you to a night or private meeting.

But Judas was not a Sanballat.  He was supposed to be a friend and minister.  The betrayals that hurt are the ones who come from the ones that you have supported the most yourself.

According to Exodus 21, 30 pieces of silver was the going rate of a slave.  I find that interesting.  This is not a lot of money, but it does correspond to the amount that a slave is worth.  Judas was literally selling himself to the Devil and enslaving himself in this action.  He was going to betray the Son of God for something around $75 or so.

Just before this, the woman had taken the anointment of the alabaster box and anointed Jesus.  This had enraged Judas, which is interesting considering that his price to sell out the Son of God was worth much less than this.

I think that the final hurt in this was that he was betrayed by a kiss.  He acted like he loved the Lord, but his heart had been corrupted and he was willing to betray this one who have given him so much love and care.  He would betray him with a kiss.

HOW MANY TIMES HAS SOMEONE PRETENDED TO LOVE YOU, BUT TURNED AND DELIBERATELY HURT YOU?  Have you ever been betrayed?  Have you ever had someone that you helped and cared for and loved, and they said that they loved you… and yet later, they turned on you and maybe walked away or turned to another or maybe literally tried to hurt you?

Matthew 26:47-50 (KJV) “ 47 And while he yet spake, lo, Judas, one of the twelve, came, and with him a great multitude with swords and staves, from the chief priests and elders of the people.   48 Now he that betrayed him gave them a sign, saying, Whomsoever I shall kiss, that same is he: hold him fast.   49 And forthwith he came to Jesus, and said, Hail, master; and kissed him.   50 And Jesus said unto him, Friend, wherefore art thou come? Then came they, and laid hands on Jesus, and took him.  “


Jesus knows what this feels like.  He knows the hurting of your heart!  He knows what it is to have the one that you loved so much turn on you and sell you out to your very enemies! 

And if you call on the name of Jesus, this Great High Priest who is making intercession for you and for me will take this hurt to God the Father and help bring healing into your own life!  He suffered this so that He could heal us!  He suffered the cross so that we could cast our own cares upon Him!

He wants us to be healed and be freed!  He wants to pick up the broken pieces and put them back together so that you are stronger afterward than you were before the betrayal.

Psalms 147:3 (KJV) He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.  


Psalms 34:17-19 (KJV)17 The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.   18 The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.   19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all.  


Luke 4:18 (KJV) The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,  


Isaiah 57:15 (KJV) For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name is Holy; I dwell in the high and holy place, with him also that is of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones.  

Is your heart broken?  Has it been betrayed?  Have you been depleted by giving and giving and giving, and then having the very one that you have given to betray you and deliberately wound you?

Let the Spirit of the Lord heal you!  Let Jesus help you… cast your cares upon Him for He cares for you and let Him heal your broken heart!

1 Peter 5:7 (KJV) Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 




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